Sinaloa, Mexico. Mexican writer and professor Rosa Beltran Explains that mothering is a social, political, economic act, and it matters to the whole society how mothering is being done now. “(You) have to start a discussion, what are the implications of this and how do we all unite so that the act of motherhood isn’t just for the giver. Progress has been made, but not enough.”
change of attitude
In his most recent novel, free radicals, Rosa Beltran Talks of at least three different ways of being a mother in three different generations. It all begins in 1968, when mothers had access to oral contraceptives and were able to devote their lives solely to motherhood for the first time.
“A very important historical change has occurred in the 1960s, especially in the West, and we, as neighbors of the United States, experience that change. They are mothers who have, for the first time, been an activist, professional, Feminist destiny was achieved, she had friends, not just family support, and it already spoke of a difference.
“It begins with the debate as to whether it is better to live full-time and exclusively with children when they are younger or if a mother who works is a less neurotic mother and hence the concept of quality time, which also begins to take shape in the 70s and 80s. Of course, for millennial moms, for moms today, it’s unimaginable not to work, not to have a life of their own, personal, professional, beyond motherhood. I know motherhood is also it can be taken as a profession and it is also something personal but not exclusive,” she says via Zoom.
current coordinator of UNAM. cultural spread of She became a mother at an early age in the 1980s, when the discussion of becoming a mother was only between the mother and perhaps the mother. “Yeah, there were tough moments for him, as I was completing my degree, going out to take exams. Going out to work, even if it was a part-time job, you always felt guilty for being in some other activity that wasn’t motherhood. Over the years I realized from my daughter that it was much better to do, that she was much happier and more involved than to be a mother who writes, who tells stories, who brings her up like Ulysses, but feminine, outside. The stories, those adventures, it was so rich”, he explains.
Living life as a professional also made her a modern and open mother who could invite her daughter and her younger friends in the afternoons to do things other mothers didn’t, such as the benefit of the Ciudad Universitaria. Pick up and shoot in the grass, collect beetles, or go to the children’s theater.
“I feel that if I hadn’t studied for a career, and hadn’t worked, I wouldn’t have that world in my head. Sometimes I made mistakes of responsibility for my youth, but in return I got my daughter’s childhood.” and my nephew, because we all played together as one of the greatest gifts of my life”, says Beltran,
She is also the author of books like court of fools You loves that kill She says she is increasingly convinced that playing is like an act of writing. “Kids are ruthless judges, they don’t forgive you if you’re playing fake, pretend they get bored and tell you. You have to be very creative when you’re playing, because playing is improvised.” Time to do different things and above all march, what’s up with you”.
She regrets that women below the middle class have to face economic setbacks and are not able to enjoy the kind of pleasure they want. “What better society we would have made, what better children we would have made, would be fair if they didn’t have to come exhausted after working long hours, to be with their children, instead of enjoying them. And that This is a task that falls not just on women but on all of us.”
motherhood as a subject
Making a particular topic visible in literature, in this case motherhood, allows us to initiate a discussion on a situation Rosa Beltran, “Writing and reading about being a mother or the mother-son and mother-daughter relationship, which is so problematic, opens our eyes to all of us and makes us feel together. Sometimes what you think about is only your Happens together, you find in literature it happens to many, and has happened for centuries, but was not written.”
Motherhood, as a theme, has changed in song as well as in society. “A common place was the search for the father, from the komala to wherever you wanted, you were always looking for the father, the mother did not care as she was supposed to be there, but the mother was also the figure that appeared That was the cinema of the 40s and she was always selfless, already by default […] All the mothers of that time, even though they cried captivated by these movies, would later ask themselves why this doesn’t happen to me, why don’t I enjoy the sacrifice that motherhood takes. As you start writing more, you see that mothers get frustrated, of course they get annoyed, of course tired, that’s the most exhausting job.”
I’m throwing three more doctorates at myself, but not raising a child, because I no longer have the energy.
also members of Mexican Academy of Languages She agrees that literature has taught us that being a mother is very difficult and that being the mother of a son is very different from that of a daughter, although she does not fully believe in Freud’s discourse on this. “Whenever you go for psychoanalysis, the starting point is to go back to your parenting relationship and qualify it based on failure, lack, abandonment, what they didn’t give you, what they didn’t, and never No, as in the case of free radicalsWhat are you, what have you achieved”.
Finally, novelists, short story writers and essayists say that culturally we have learned certain things, such as knowing that being the mother of a daughter is a competition, a subject we are now learning through literature. “The daughter, especially in adolescence, wants to stand out, she has her own identity. I think children too, of course, but with the mother, it is very natural to have this discussion, these differences and to understand that this is normal and good. Knowing that friction isn’t because your daughter was born that way, and because you’re a terrible mother, but it’s normal to allow another human being to define herself as her own.”